Sex After Baby!
13 Sep 2016

Sex After Baby!





After the birth of your new family member, you may encounter a few roadblocks when trying to get back into enjoying adult fun under the sheets. But, if you listen to your body and follow a few precautions you will soon find your sexy self back.  Here are a few issues you may encounter:

1. You have to wait.

If you’ve just given birth, you will have to be patient and wait a little bit before getting back under the sheets. Penetrative sex is risky after giving birth because of tears that can get infected. Normally most women must wait at least two weeks or more after birth before having sex again depending on how well the delivery went. To be sure, you should always verify with your doctor. Only they can give you the green light. Remember that if you are taking longer to heal and are excited to get back into things, there are a variety of other sexual activities you can engage in with your partner that don’t involve penetrative sex. (Try a long and sexy makeout sesh!)

2.Your libido is out of whack.

Even if you’re all healed up, your head may not be into it. Don’t worry, this is completely normal. You’ve just gone through childbirth! You could be sore, tired and overwhelmed with the new responsibilities. Plus, your hormones are going through some big changes that can affect how sexual you feel and even how your general mood is. It is also possible that you have problems with lubrication as your body goes through changes in estrogen levels and this may last as you breastfeed your newborn. Regardless of what may be causing you to not feel ready, it is ok. There is no rush to get back into things and you need to give yourself some time to adjust to your new body and life. However, if you start to feel a bit depressed for long periods of time, let your doctor know. You may be dealing with postpartum depression and this has to be looked at sooner rather than later.

3. You’re experiencing pain!

Depending on how the birth went, sex could be painful for a while. This is where you need to learn to take things slow and listen to your body. Try to not rush things, use lubrication if needed, and don’t be afraid to try different positions. For some, side by side sex works wonderfully as it avoids pressure on the cervix and vagina. Once again, there is an array of non penetrative activities you can do until you feel ready, such as oral and manual sex. Communication with your partner will ensure that you both have lots of pleasure and no pain!

Bottom line, having a baby will be challenging on its own, so take your time and always remember to communicate with your partner so that they understand things might take time.  Also as we always say, remember to follow your doctor’s instructions.

What do you think? What are your experiences? You have any questions? Comments? Please drop me a line below!

Other interesting resources on the topic:
Sex after baby: Groundbreaking research on what happens in the bedroom after birth
Let’s talk about sex: After the baby

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Delphine DiTecco

Sex Enthusiast, Writer, Researcher, Performer, Makeup and Product Lover Masters Student in Women and Gender Studies Honours B.A. in Psychology Podcast Host and Creator of Broke and Horny

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